10/1: it is what it is

what to say when there's nothing else to say?

well, basically you found yourself in a hole i would think?

ive become a pro at not knowing what to say when there's nothing to say.

im sure you have the same experiences...just standing there and having your mind go blank. "shit, what do i say?" yeah- everyone gets that.

if it happens a lot more than you like...thennn welcome to my world.

things of this matter can really only go one of two ways. A- everything goes awesome, just the way you want it. or B- you dig yourself in a bigger hole.

being the master of both A and B, you want everything to go the way you want it to go- but at a cost, you'll probably dig yourself in a hole.

sometimes you can literally say everything you want to say in the exact moment you want to say it- and when im mean literally- im not even kidding. you've said it all. you've made it clear exactly what is going on in your head- everything just out there in the open for someone else to take in.

when you do that for the first time, it feels right. (aaaa- a little scary? fuck yeah. you've basically put all your cards on the table...now- whats their reaction?)

confused? okay...here's a scenario:

put yourself in position A (everything goes awesome, just the way you want it)

A for AWESOME, AMAZING, and ASTONISHING...then you get something like this...

"it is what it is."

most vague statement ever? yep.

now what do you say?

well, what can you say? at this point your walking down the stairs and a sign says- welcome to the hole. position B straight ahead.

STOP and TURN AROUND. now- just forget about position B- it is now nonexistent. com'on- there are no holes in something great! why should there be?

at least the hole is something that has left my mind. at this point, who cares about the hole? im going A all the way. at the end of the day, your going to do what you want. and you should. how are you ever going to find what makes you happy if you dont do that?

i like to think that if all you focus on is the bittersweet reality of having something great surrounded by something other people think is wrong- it will just take the happiness out of whatever you want to accomplish for yourself.

and not knowing what to say, sometimes that's a start. at least you want to say something more...maybe you just don't know what it is yet.

if "it is what it is" has been stricken on your conscience...

well, at least your confident in what you want and you've made it clear to the person you want to hear it. your in position A and your going to stay there, no matter how hard it is. at least you know your not letting the hole be the #1 factor of something that in the long run will not matter.

if my positivity on this scenario kills you- well, its killing me too. 

it is what it is, and yet...its not- that's it.